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A guide for mentees: Pick Well

How to choose a colleague mentor from the pool and use a short session well.

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What this guide covers

What this guide covers

What this guide covers

Why they say yes

Colleagues say yes more than you expect

We guess far too low how many people will agree to help when asked.

50% How far people underestimate the number who will agree to a request for help Flynn & Lake, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2008

Choosing by problem

Choose by problem, not by title

The best mentor for you has solved your problem at a stage like yours.

  • Has this person solved my problem before?
  • Was it in a role like mine?
  • Do they say what they help with?
  • Do they have a free slot soon?

More than one mentor

Build a small circle of mentors

A network of about five people helps more than one perfect mentor.

Your question first

Send your question before the session

A few lines of context let your mentor spend the time on the answer.

Advice, not feedback

Ask for advice, not feedback

Asking for advice brings more concrete and usable input than asking for feedback.

  • What would you change next time? Advice: concrete and forward.
  • Any feedback on my update? Feedback: polite and vague.

Closing the loop

Tell your mentor what you did

A short note after the session shows what you took away and will try.

Doing it on Mentornity

Find and book a mentor on Mentornity

The Mentors page, open slots and reminders take care of the logistics.

Search by expertise

Find colleagues by what they know, and book a free slot.

See times in your time zone

Open slots show in your own time zone.

Fill in the meeting form

If your program uses one, it reopens with your saved answers.

Send a message

Every message also reaches your mentor by email.

Turn on browser notifications

Bookings, changes and messages reach you at once.

Search by expertise

Find colleagues by what they know, and book a free slot.

See times in your time zone

Open slots show in your own time zone.

One slot, three time zonesEach sees their own
LondonMentor 09:00
DubaiMentee 12:00
SingaporeMentee 16:00
One meeting, one video link

Fill in the meeting form

If your program uses one, it reopens with your saved answers.

Send a message

Every message also reaches your mentor by email.

Turn on browser notifications

Bookings, changes and messages reach you at once.

Book one colleague this week

Write your question in two lines, then pick the mentor who has solved it.

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