A guide for mentees: Not Sure Yet
How to use your first meetings when you do not have a goal yet.
What this guide covers
What this guide covers
What this guide covers
No goal yet
You do not need a goal yet
Bring three possible directions to your mentor instead of one answer.
- Something you enjoy
- Something you are good at
- Something you are curious about
Why steps matter
Tie each future to a step
Students who linked future selves to concrete steps did better at school.
Ask someone
Talk to one person per direction
Ask someone who does that work for twenty minutes; most people say yes.
Five questions
Five questions for that talk
Ask the most important one first, in case time runs short.
- What does a normal week look like?
- What do you like least about it?
- How did you get here?
- What should a student try first?
- Who else should I talk to?
Small tests
Try it before you choose
Pick one small test per direction that you can do in two weeks.
- Watch join someone for a day or a call
- Do a short task or free course
- Meet one event, club or meetup
Back to your mentor
Compare the three with your mentor
Say what pulled you in and what put you off; then pick the next test.
- Pulled me in what I want more of
- Put me off what I can rule out
- Next test one step, one date
Mentornity in Claude and ChatGPT
Use Mentornity from Claude or ChatGPT
Ask in your own words; your assistant plans meetings, fills in tools and drafts messages.
Connect it once
Add Mentornity in Claude, ChatGPT or another MCP app, then sign in.
Ask in your own words
Plan meetings, fill in a tool or form, find a mentor, reply.
A preview before every change
The assistant shows what will happen; nothing changes until you say yes.
Disconnect any time
It sees only what you see; Settings shows what it did recently.
Connect it once
Add Mentornity in Claude, ChatGPT or another MCP app, then sign in.
Ask in your own words
Plan meetings, fill in a tool or form, find a mentor, reply.
A preview before every change
The assistant shows what will happen; nothing changes until you say yes.
Disconnect any time
It sees only what you see; Settings shows what it did recently.
Your goals and the Academy
Set goals, learn, earn a badge
Track your goals in My development and learn in Mentornity Academy, in your language.
Set your goals
Write what you want to reach and rate it at each check-in.
Badge courses for mentors
Seven skills with short practice, then a 20-question exam.
Guides for mentors and mentees
Research-based guides, a deck for every tool, and decks for your program.
Add your badge to LinkedIn
Pass the exam and share the badge page, valid for two years.
Set your goals
Write what you want to reach and rate it at each check-in.
Badge courses for mentors
Seven skills with short practice, then a 20-question exam.
Guides for mentors and mentees
Research-based guides, a deck for every tool, and decks for your program.
Add your badge to LinkedIn
Pass the exam and share the badge page, valid for two years.
Sources
The research behind this presentation
- Oyserman, D., Bybee, D. & Terry, K. (2006) Possible selves and academic outcomes: How and when possible selves impel action Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 91(1), 188-204
- Bohns, V. K. (2016) (Mis)understanding our influence over others: A review of the underestimation-of-compliance effect Current Directions in Psychological Science, 25(2), 119-123
- MENTOR: The National Mentoring Partnership (2015) Elements of Effective Practice for Mentoring, Fourth Edition MENTOR, Boston
Write your three directions tonight
One line each, shared with your mentor before you meet.