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A guide for mentors: Relationship Check-in for Mentors

How to send the Relationship Check-in, read the scores and change one thing.

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What this guide covers

What this guide covers

What this guide covers

What it is

Four ratings on how it is going

Your mentee rates four statements about your work together, from 0 to 10.

When to send it

Check the alliance every month

A good working alliance goes with better outcomes (Graßmann and others, 2020).

  • After a few meetings once there is a rhythm to rate
  • About once a month three minutes, so the trend shows
  • When something feels off a quiet mentee, a missed meeting

An honest frame

A pulse, not a grade

The four statements are not a validated scale, so treat them as a prompt.

  • Honest beats high a low score is useful news
  • The trend counts one score says little on its own
  • Their words count most keep and change say why

Sending it

Send it from your pairing

It takes a minute, and your mentee gets an email.

Open your pairing

Choose Assign a tool and find the Relationship Check-in.

Try it as your mentee

Fill it in yourself first; nothing is saved or sent.

Add a short message

Say that a low score is welcome and useful.

Open your pairing

Choose Assign a tool and find the Relationship Check-in.

Try it as your mentee

Fill it in yourself first; nothing is saved or sent.

Add a short message

Say that a low score is welcome and useful.

Reading the answers

Start with the lowest score

The lowest item, and what changed since last time, say the most.

  • The lowest item named at a glance, with its score
  • Since last time the earlier score is marked beside the new one
  • Keep and change their own words, often the clearest part

Questions to ask

Ask about the low score, calmly

People who ask follow-up questions are liked more (Huang and others, 2017).

  • Which score is lowest, and what is behind it? then: what would raise it one point?
  • What has changed since the last check-in? then: what helped, what got in the way?
  • What will we do differently next meeting? then: how will we notice?

Taking the feedback

This time the feedback is for you

Your mentee is rating your work together, so listen before you explain.

  • Thank them first a low score takes some courage
  • Ask one question what would make it better?
  • Change one thing and say what you changed

One step

Try one change next meeting

Plans in the form "if this happens, then I do that" help people act.

94 Tests found that if-then plans help people reach their goals Gollwitzer and Sheeran, 2006

After the meeting

Watch the trend on Mentornity

The scores, your comments and the next steps stay in one place.

Read it at a glance

The average and the lowest item are summed up.

Add next steps

Write what will be done, by whom and by when.

Ask to fill it again

Next month, each new score sits beside the last one.

Read it at a glance

The average and the lowest item are summed up.

Add next steps

Write what will be done, by whom and by when.

Ask to fill it again

Next month, each new score sits beside the last one.

Ask how it is going this month

Send the check-in after your next meeting and talk about the lowest score.

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